Saturday, April 21, 2012

My Answer to Suffering

I originally wrote this as a paper for a class, but it ended up being such a strong testimony to me of the greatness of the gospel of Christ that I wanted to share it with everyone. I edited it to shorten it (it was originally 13 pages) and kept the part that talks about the church's perspective on the problem of evil (aka how can there be a loving God and suffering on this earth?). Sorry if it is a little long...and a lot like an essay lol :) Hopefully you can make it to the end because that's the best part :)



Solutions to the Problem of Evil
            For centuries man has struggled with the concept of God.  One of the foremost issues facing mankind in this regard is the discrepancy between the existence of a God and the simultaneous existence of rampant suffering, hatred, and violence throughout the world. This discrepancy is often titled “the problem of evil”. Of all those who have attempted to answer this problem, the LDS Church has most significantly addressed the issue and has found the most complete answer. Their answer, in short, is this: “If the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee… [it] shall give thee experience and shall be for thy good” (D&C 122:7).
            One classic example of how the problem of evil is often faced by the religious is found in Viktor Frankl’s “Man’s Search for Meaning”.  Frankl was approached by his six year old daughter who asked, “Why do we speak of the good Lord?” To which Frankl responded, “Some weeks ago, you were suffering from the measles, and then the good Lord sent you a full recovery.” Not satisfied, the little girl pointed out, “Well, but please Daddy, do not forget: in the first place, he had sent me the measles” (118-119). Those who are guided by a faith in God often attribute to him only the positive things of the world. This is the simplest way to reconcile the problem of evil on a personal level. However, like Frankl’s daughter, some are not contented with this and seek a deeper resolution to the problem.
            To understand the LDS Church's solution to this problem, first we need to understand God himself. A scripture from the Book of Mormon explains clearly the Church’s belief in God. It reads:
Believe in God…and that he created all things, both in heaven and in earth; believe that he has all wisdom, and all power, both in heaven and in earth; believe that man doth not comprehend all the things which the Lord can comprehend.
-  Mosiah 4: 9             
Thus we see that God is both omniscient and omnipotent, and that his plan for our lives is often difficult for our mortal minds to understand. 
The LDS Church also has an understanding of God’s relationship with his children on earth and his plan for them that differs significantly from the mainstream beliefs of Christianity.  The central aspect of this relationship is that all human beings are literal spiritual offspring of a Heavenly Father.  As his children, Heavenly Father wants us to be like him, a perfect being with the ability to create and have children.  The type of life that Heavenly Father has is termed “eternal life” or “exaltation” by the LDS Church. His plan for us, called the plan of salvation, is this: to come to earth, receive a body, be tested and tried, die, and be resurrected.  All of this is for the purpose of helping us to achieve exaltation and eternal life.  Central to this plan is the atonement and resurrection of the Savior, Jesus Christ, which allows us to be forgiven of our mistakes and to live again after death (Preach My Gospel, 48).
This basic knowledge of the plan of salvation is important for understanding the solution to the problem of evil from the perspective of the LDS Church.  Knowing that each person is on earth in order to become like their Heavenly Father, a perfect being, explains the need for personal growth during this life.  Many of the difficulties of life, including those that some would say God has a responsibility to stop because they can be painful, are actually stepping stones that, when faced with faith in God, provide for personal progress towards perfection.  From this perspective, Frankl would have responded to his daughter by asking, “Perhaps the good Lord gave you the measles, but what did you learn from having the measles?”  Life then can be viewed as a type of mortal school with the intent to teach us all to become like God.
One principle must be understood in order for this argument to stand.  The LDS Church believes that growth and learning cannot occur without opposition.  The Book of Mormon explains this principle:
For it must needs be, that there is an opposition in all things. If not so…righteousness could not be brought to pass, neither wickedness, neither holiness nor misery, neither good nor bad …[neither] happiness nor misery…wherefore there would have been no purpose in the end of [the earth’s] creation.               -  2 Nephi 2: 11-12
The argument here is that if we never knew any sorrow, nor saw any evil, we would not be able to know happiness nor recognize good. We would therefore be like Adam and Eve, not knowing good from evil, and be stuck in an endless state of non-progression.  From this perspective, we can understand why the LDS Church views the fall of Adam and Eve as essential to Heavenly Father’s plan.  Once they fell, they were exposed to opposition, and then could begin their journey towards perfection. We, as their posterity, also are exposed to opposition and are on this same mortal journey.
James E. Faust, former Second Counselor of the LDS Church, said regarding this life’s journey:
All must pass through a refiner’s fire…there seems to be a full measure of anguish, sorrow, and often heartbreak for everyone, including those who earnestly seek to do right and be faithful. Yet this is part of the purging to become acquainted with God (“Eternity Lies Before Us”, 63).
“Refiner’s fire” and “purging” are symbolic words used often in the LDS Church to describe the cleansing and perfecting process that all faithful followers of Christ pass through in this life.  Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints often look to their pioneer forbearers as an example of keeping faith even through extremely difficult trials.  Francis Webster, a survivor of the Martin Handcart Company, the company that faced the most disastrous and life-threatening circumstances, said, “Was I sorry that I chose to come by hand cart? No. Neither then nor any minute of my life since. The price we paid to become acquainted with God was a privilege to pay and I am thankful that I was privileged to come in the Martin Hand Cart Company" (Palmer, “Pioneers of Southern Utah”). Even through the most horrible of circumstances, this man saw that his trials were refining him, bringing him closer to God, and teaching him important lessons.  It is this concept that the Lord is referring to in Doctrine and Covenants section 122, verse 7:
If thou shouldst be cast into the pit, or into the hands of murderers…if thou be cast into the deep; if the billowing surge conspire against thee; if fierce winds become thine enemy; if the heavens gather blackness, and all the elements combine to hedge up the way; and above all, if the very jaws of hell shall gape open the mouth wide after thee, know thou…that all these things shall give thee experience, and shall be for thy good (emphasis added).
The next question that must be answered upon understanding this principle is: how can trials and suffering be for our good? Sometimes, it is difficult to see any benefit from our trials, especially when early death or some other seemingly irremediable misfortune is involved. Brigham Young, the second president of the LDS Church, explained:
All intelligent beings who are crowned with crowns of glory, immortality, and eternal lives must pass through every ordeal appointed for intelligent beings to pass through, to gain their glory and exaltation…Every trial and experience you have passed through is necessary for your salvation (345).
Simply put, individual perfection cannot be obtained without every suffering and trial each person experiences individually.  Thus, God has tailored our mortal experience on this earth specifically for what we individually need in order to be perfected. Because we are all different, our needed experiences range widely.  That is one reason this earth is so diverse. Also, this is where faith comes in.  We must trust Heavenly Father, especially when going through a difficult experience, and remain obedient.  Upon doing so, we are promised that whatever we experience will, in the eternal picture, be for our good. As a result, God is in no way immoral for letting us suffer temporarily.  When all is weighed out on an eternal scale, there will be balance and justice for each of us on God’s part.
            That brings up two essential ingredients needed on our part in order to tip the balanced scales in our favor.  The first is obedience.  Doctrine and Covenants 130: 20-21 reads, “There is a law, irrevocably decreed in heaven before the foundations of this world, upon which all blessings are predicated— And when we obtain any blessing from God, it is by obedience to that law upon which it is predicated.” The blessings of understanding, growth, and peace come by continued obedience to the Lord’s commandments throughout the duration of our trial.  When we complain or “murmur,” and subsequently stop being obedient, we lose access to these blessings.  Often, when we refuse to react with faith and obedience during our trials, we lose the opportunity to learn and grow from them, and they are no longer for our good.  This injustice, however, falls on us, not on God.
            The second necessary ingredient is mercy.  Mercy, whether it be forgiveness for a wrong doing or peace during a painful time in our lives, is only possible through the atonement of Christ.  Alma 7: 11-12 explains how the atonement can right every wrong:
And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictions and temptations of every kind...he will take upon him death, that he may loose the bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.
Through the atonement, we have access to mercy.  Whether or not we use it, however, is up to us.  All things will be for our good if we 1) repent of our sins and 2) turn to the Lord in our trials to receive comfort, understanding, and the strength to become better.
            So far, we’ve only explained one aspect of the problem of evil.  We’ve seen that trials can be good for us and are therefore not immoral for God to allow.  However, there is still the question of sin.  Why does God allow the existence of evil and wrong-doing in this world?  Couldn’t he stop it?  For most Christians, this question is hard to answer.  Some have come to the conclusion that God is not powerful enough to stop Satan, the father of evil, from wreaking havoc among God’s children.  The LDS scriptures offer a more reasonable explanation.  2 Nephi 2:27 explains that all of Heavenly Father’s children are free to make their own decisions:
Wherefore, men are free according to the flesh…And they are free to choose liberty and eternal life, through the great Mediator of all men, or to choose captivity and death, according to the captivity and power of the devil.
This freedom to choose is called agency.  As the LDS Church believes, this means that God, acting under divine laws, does not interfere with our decisions nor does he force us to be obedient.  As a result, we are allowed to do evil as well as good, though we are responsible for the consequences of our choices.  Every human being commits sin to some degree.  Again, the atonement is applied to make up for this, and pays the consequences of our sins for us.  This occurs through repentance.  When we repent, the eternal consequences of our sins are paid for, and we are clean again.  The atonement doesn’t completely erase the act, as if we had never committed the sin, however, thus allowing us to learn from our mistakes and continue towards perfection.  
Agency also explains why God doesn’t stop, for example, someone from murdering an innocent person, nor does he stop other terrible things from happening to righteous people.  He cannot interfere with our decisions, even if they put someone else in harm.  He can and does try to influence us to do good rather than evil, but ultimately we have the choice of whether or not we listen to him. Unfortunately, this means that the righteous and innocent sometimes get hurt by the wicked.  However, the atonement is there to help compensate for the damage and to turn the situation into a growing experience for everyone involved.
            God’s gift of agency to his children makes sense when viewed from an eternal perspective.  We are on earth to become like God, and we need to make decisions for ourselves that lead us down that path.  If we couldn’t choose to become like God, then how could we ever become like him?  That kind of growth and progress cannot be forced, but must be chosen.  This is evident by the fact that Satan proposed a plan that involved forcing righteousness upon God’s children so that all would be saved, and God rejected that plan, refusing to take away man’s agency (Moses 4:1-4).  There is a necessary element in the process of being tempted, tried, overcoming and choosing to follow God that helps us to become perfected.  President Faust clarified this when he said:
Our agency, given us through the plan of our Father, is the great alternative to Satan’s plan of force. With this sublime gift, we can grow, improve, progress, and seek perfection. Without agency, none of us could grow and develop by learning from our mistakes and errors and those of others (“The Forces That Will Save Us”).
Thus, the cost of agency (sometimes the innocent get hurt) is less than the gain from agency (God’s children can grow and become perfect like he is).  Again, the atheist’s argument that the existence of suffering means that God must be immoral is thwarted.  There is a purpose to suffering and sin, and the good resulting outweighs the bad.  Therefore, God is moral for allowing us to suffer.  Often, we thank God for our trials and praise him for our sufferings.
Sometimes the belief that God is in control and everything is designed to happen for a purpose can cause a feeling of complacency and can cause people to refrain from helping others,  The LDS Church, however, does not encourage inaction.  Rather, it encourages that men be “anxiously engaged in a good cause” (D&C 58: 27).  Inaction can be seen as a sin.  2 Nephi 2: 26 teaches that men are free to choose, and therefore must “act for themselves, and not…be acted upon”.  We are not here floating aimlessly on earth, and we are not meant to sit idly by and wait for God to do everything for us.  We are to make decisions for ourselves, act, and do the most good that we can in our sphere of influence.  The LDS Church constantly encourages its members to be involved in service.  There are church welfare programs and other programs designed to right some of the wrongs that are plaguing our world today.  It is clear to me that the horrible situation of children starving in Africa can be a blessing to God’s children because it invites those who have more to step up and serve them, and thereby grow in the process.  It would be inappropriate in the light of the teachings of the LDS Church to claim that they are supposed to starve and that we should not interfere.  This is just one example of a “good cause” that we could choose to be anxiously engaged in.
            So, is this world really as good as it gets?  Is suffering, pain, and sin really necessary as part of our existence on this earth?  Personally, I believe the answer is yes, not because this is the best that God can do, but rather because Heavenly Father has created an environment for us to grow and become perfected.  This world contains everything that God needs to fulfill his purposes, and as such it contains everything we need to achieve exaltation.  Everything that goes wrong on earth is made right in the eternities, mostly as a result of the atonement of Christ.  The most perfect part of this world is that all people will have a chance to hear the gospel, accept it, and receive all the blessings connected to it, if not in this life than in the next life.  Though I admit this world isn't always rosy to live in, I have yet to find a flaw in it that cannot be explained with an eternal perspective.  I believe with all my heart that indeed, all things will work together for our good.  I hope that all of God’s children come to understand that and partake of the blessings that God has to offer them.

Works Cited
Beesley, Kenneth H. “What is the Purpose of Suffering.” New Era. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, April 1975. Web. 16 March 2012. < http://www.lds. org/new-era/1975/04/what-is-the-purpose-of-suffering?lang=eng&query=reasons+ suffering>.
The Book of Mormon, Pearl of Great Price and the Doctrine and Covenants. Salt Lake City, UT: The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, 1981. Print.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, “Preach My Gospel.” USA: Intellectual Reserve, 2004. Print.
Faust, James E. “Eternity Lies Before Us,” Ensign, May 1997: 63. Print.
Faust, James E. “The Forces That Will Save Us,” Liahona. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, Jan 2007. Web. 3 April 2012. < http://www.lds.org/liahona/2007/01/ the-forces-that-will-save-us?lang=eng>.
Frankl, Viktor L. Man’s Search for Meaning, Boston, Massachussettes: Beacon Press.
Palmer, William R. "Pioneers of Southern Utah" The Instructor, May 1944: 217–218. Print.
Widtsoe, John A. Discourses of Brigham Young. Salt Lake City, UT: Deseret Book Company, 1954. Print.

I hope you guys enjoyed this! Writing it strengthened my testimony so much! The gospel of Christ really is perfect and I love being a part of it! 

Love,

Kamie

Sunday, March 25, 2012

Lessons Learned

Boy, it has been a crazy time! But isn't it always? Lol :) Nate and I (mostly me) have been really busy with school and work and life in general. I finally sat down for a break and realized that I hadn't written in months! So hopefully I can come back to reality now at least long enough to write this post.

Since I wrote last in November, a lot has changed in our lives. Most importantly, Nate and I are expecting a precious baby to be born in August. We find out this week if it is a boy or a girl :) Also, Nate got accepted to the University of Washington Dental School RIDE program. Needless to say, the Lord has blessed us abundantly. We have been a little overwhelmed with these blessings (no one ever said pregnancy was easy) but we are SOOOOOO grateful! Nate graduates in just a few weeks, and I finish school in June. We will both be walking in the BYU Graduation Commencement this April. It will be fun to see family and to celebrate finally being done!!!!! So, we only have a few more months in Provo before we head off to Washington. It will be a whole new fun and exciting time in our lives.

My 19 weeks baby belly :)

Everything is changing so quickly these days that it is hard to keep track sometimes. Another thing that has changed a lot in the past few months is my perspective. In the moments when I have been thinking clearly (AKA not overwhelmed with pregnancy hormones ha ha), I have begun to understand an important truth: Life is about learning. It took me a rather long time to realize that the whole point of going to school was to learn something, which sometimes can be hard to recognize beneath the craziness of grades and future career plans. Once I realized this, though, it didn't take quite as long for me to figure out that life must be about learning, too.

Here's how I came to this conclusion:

Since getting married and becoming pregnant, I have had to be two things at once: A wife and future mom and a student. In the past I only had to be a student and therefore could focus all of my attention on being the best student possible. However, when I took on another role of being a wife and mother, my attention became divided. I tried to be a great student and a great pregnant wife at the same time. Obviously, I failed. I had to choose which I would focus on, or else be mediocre at both. So far, I have mostly just been mediocre since I feel both are important and can't justify abandoning one or the other. This is really hard for me because I like to be really good at whatever I do, and all I've ever really done is be a student. So, on days when I haven't been able study as much as I need to and haven't gotten the A on the test, I have felt horrible about myself. Then, when I have come home to realize that the apartment is a mess and that dinner still needs to be made, I have felt even worse. I had in my mind growing up this idea that I would be the perfect wife, that the house would always be spotless and that every meal would be elegant. Instead, I have depended on Nate to do most of the cleaning, some of the cooking, and what I have managed to cook has been far from elegant. Our apartment isn't perfectly organized or spotless like I imagined... I took these feelings of failure to Nate, and he explained to me that I was expecting WAY too much from myself. I expected to be perfect without learning HOW to be perfect, and learning how takes lots of time and practice.

So, though deep down I still wish I was more like the perfect woman I imagine I should be, I think more about what I am doing right and what I still have to learn. I have A LOT to learn, but I realize that I am not a failure. I am doing really important and challenging things. Luckily, I have Nate to help me. He is an angel and is more than willing to pick up my slack. He has been working four jobs and helping with all of the house work, not to mention dealing with all of my stress and hormones. He is so wonderful and I am so grateful for him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He has taught me that I can set goals to improve at certain things, or study something so I can understand better how to do something the right way. Honestly, I am looking forward to graduating so that I have more time to concentrate on learning all the things I want to know. It is so much more fun! For example, one goal I have for after I graduate is to learn to make the perfect spaghetti sauce. Another is to learn how to grow a garden. I'm sure I could think of a hundred things I want to learn. I'll be keeping a list ;)

Another thing that has helped me to come to this conclusion is a class that I am taking right now. It is an honors civilization class and has caused me to think a lot. We are reading some great books, including "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl and Gandhi's Autobiography. I have learned a lot about life from these great men. As I have studied a huge variety of subjects in this class and in my other classes, I have realized that all the truths I have learned add to each other and create a beautiful picture of God and His love for us. All of these truths have increased my testimony of the gospel of Jesus Christ. The more I learn about the gospel and about seemingly unrelated things, the more this testimony grows. Everything testifies that there is a God. I love learning for this reason. I have enjoyed my scripture study and my school studies a lot more as I have come to understand this. One day I will know everything! But for now I'll just keep learning what I can and what the Lord wants me to know.

Well, Nate and I are really excited for the future! And also a little scared lol :) But we have faith the the Lord will bless us and help us to accomplish our goals (and His goals for us). He has never let us down in the past, and He has given us far more than we deserve! Though we know it will be hard to move to a new state, start dental school, and have a new baby all at once, we hope it will be an adventure. I am determined to be happy about every moment of it! We'll see how long that lasts lol :) But the Lord will be with us, and we have wonderful family and friends to help us along the way! So we are excited and hopeful. And so in love :)

Here are some random pictures from the last few months:

Our first New Year's Kiss as a married couple.

Us in front of the Christmas Tree at the Bushman's house this Christmas. I helped pick the tree. It was my first time having a real tree for Christmas. We had so much fun with the Bushman family over the holidays!

Nate in front of the largest castle made out of cardboard boxes. He was SOOO excited to help build it! (I wouldn't say sooo excited, I just thought it was a good study break and wanted to be part of a world record  -Nate)

This is what I woke up to on Valentine's Day. Nate was so sweet! He got me everything I wanted :) All I had to get him was Sees Chocolate and he was more than satisfied lol :)

We love you guys!

-Nate and Kamie

Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Falling for Fall :)

Nate and I have had a great Fall! We just had our 7 month anniversary, and the roller coaster of marriage is still rolling on :) It's gone by so fast, yet somehow it feels like we have always been married. Just think! In less than 7 months from now, both Nate and I will be done with school at BYU! Then it will be off to new and more exciting adventures doing who knows what at who knows where. Crazy right!?

In the last couple of months, Nate and I have had a lot of firsts in our married life.

Our first BYU Football Season together.

All bundled up

Go BYU!!!! The season started off pretty rough, but they turned things around :)

Weekend football games make for good dates :) After the game we would ride our bikes over to Coldstone to get some ice cream :)

Nate loves football! He'd rather be on the field than on the sidelines lol :)

The Bushmans came with us to the Homecoming Game
Our first camping trip together.

We went up above Squaw Peak. Gorgeous view!

Shanie (Nate's sister) and her husband, Kyle, came with us :)

Nate's happy because we made smores the night before :)

Our first trip to Vegas together.

While lost in one of the casinos, Nate made a new friend :)

I love gazebos!!! Or anything that resembles them lol :)

My favorite place was Caesar's palace :) I loved all the awesome statues (I'm kinda an art history nerd).


I tried to catch the Mirage sign in the background.


We wanted to ride on the gondolas, but it was a bit pricy... Maybe next time :)






If you're wondering why two sweet and innocent people like us went to Vegas, it was for one of Nate's dental school interviews ;)
Our first General Conference together.

We decided to start a tradition for Conference: Hashbrowns!


Our first Halloween together.

Captain America! (If you know Nate, this character totally fits him!)

Can you guess who I am? Yup, his girl ;)

We went bowling with Shanie and Kyle. We got 2nd place in the costume contest, and they got third! (I think Nate and Shanie get their excitement for costumes from their mom).

 Our first time having a brother open a mission call.


Nate's brother, Nick, got called to Houston, TX.

Mom and Dad on skype :)

The whole crew :)


Our first Ultimate Frisbee season together.

Nate LOVES frisbee! So I played on their team so they would have enough players :) We won a game or two lol :)
 There were a few more firsts.  Our first nights apart (Nate interviewed in Washington and Arizona, and I stayed home). Our first time babysitting together. The first time we both did horribly bad on exams and had to cheer each other up. Our first Thanksgiving together, which we spent at my dad's mom's house in Idaho. Our first time Christmas shopping on Black Friday together (he did such a great job picking out my presents!). Our first package from Nate's mom as a married couple (Chocolate and Christmas decorations). Our first attempt to help each other get back in shape. The first time I made lasagna since we've been married lol :) And the list goes on and on.

Another first for me has been the realization that there is no such thing as, "And they lived happily ever after."  Don't get me wrong, we're plenty happy, but happiness doesn't just magically come because we found each other.  We've got a whole lifetime ahead of us of working towards our goals and working to help each other become the people we want to be. We can't just "live" happily, which to me implies that there is little effort involved. We will "work" happily today and all the way through our "ever after." And what a wonderful adventure that will be! :)

-Kamie